Organising the guest list for any type of event can be stressful, but when it comes to weddings it can be brutal trying to work out who makes the cut – and who is only going to be invited to the reception.
One bride has reportedly come up with her own solution for this – but not everyone’s impressed with her method.
The bride-to-be’s sister has taken to Reddit to ask if she’s in the wrong for refusing to RSVP to the big day, as she has to apply for a spot at the wedding.
She wrote: “Am I the a**hole for refusing to RSVP to my sister’s wedding because I’m required to write an ‘application essay’ just to attend?
“My sister is getting married next February, destination wedding no less.
“Because of the pandemic, her original venue has made her cut down on guests because they’re cutting capacity by half.
“As a result she’s sending out ‘re-invites’ that asks everyone to RSVP again. But in order to figure out who to invite and who to cut, she’s asking all confirmed guests to submit two 250-word ‘essays’ to two questions.
“The gist is that they’ll use these essays to choose who can come or not, based on people’s enthusiasm. People who don’t write the essays at all will be automatically disqualified.”
Well, that’s one way to do it…
The sister went on to say that she feels “really insulted” that she has to compete for an invite and thinks that her sibling just wants people to “kiss a**”.
She claims the two essay questions are ‘why do you still want to celebrate this day with us?’ and ‘what will attending our wedding mean to you specifically?’
She added: “I told her in advance I’m not writing 500 words on why I NEED to attend her wedding, spend my own money on plane tickets/hotels, and buy her a present.
“This has really rubbed her and my parents the wrong way. She’s said that to keep things fair if I don’t fill out the RSVP correctly I won’t be saved a spot. I said fine with me. Then my parents said if I don’t show up I’m going to be in big f***ing trouble with all our relatives so just write the essays.”
She turns to the internet at this point for advice on who is right in this situation.
And it’s fair to say fellow Reddit users had a lot of thoughts.
One person replied: “I would definitely send in two essays. The first would say ‘Mom/Dad said I have to come or I’m in BIG trouble’ over and over again until you hit 250. The second, ‘I’m your sibling’.”
Another commented: “Tell your parents that if they want you to attend so badly, they should write the essays for you.”
A third branded the whole thing “insane”, while a different user proclaimed it to be “ridiculous”, writing: “I hope no one writes the essay so she can see how ridiculous shes being.”
Someone else added: “I think this is one of the most idiotic Bridezilla performances I’ve seen.”